If you’ve been involved in many mens’ internet groups, you may have heard of the concepts known as MGTOW and the black pill. These are two concepts which I believe are highly toxic to society, and it is important to explain how they are operating.
Many of these concepts bring up very good points, but overall, they are toxic to society and bring men and women down. MGTOW stands for Men Going Their Own Way, which is essentially when men refuse to date women in the long term, and withdraw from society.
This is obviously very toxic because it cuts down on the number of marriages, child births, and cannot be sustained over a long period of time.
Then, there is the black pill, which is a very nihilistic and cynical view of the world, that says nothing is worth fighting for, we should withdraw from society altogether, and we should just give up and embrace defeatism.
In this article, I will be explaining both MGTOW and the black pill, and how they are both very closely related together.
MGTOW: Men Going Their Own Way
MGTOW, short for men going their own way, is a group of men which has decided to leave women and society behind altogether. While the stereotype is that they’re a bunch of incels (involuntary celibates), this isn’t necessarily the case.
Many men who are MGTOW are in fact bitter, but many have simply chosen it as a way of life, because they believe it is the best decision to make.
There are some good points which MGTOW brings up however, such as taken from the following article:
MGTOW, or short for “Men Going Their Own Way,” is a movement that’s been growing in popularity lately.
It’s obviously hard to briefly describe a whole community’s belief system, but if I had to boil down MGTOW into a single philosophy, it would be something like this…
Put your own life, your own success, and your own well being, before women.
That means don’t chase women. It means don’t sacrifice your integrity for women.
It means don’t get married to a woman (without a prenup), and it means don’t become a beta orbiter for 15 years and waste your time on a woman.
If I had to describe MGTOW in a nutshell, that’s how I’d do it.
Are there guys who completely advocate NEVER talking to a woman, who identify as “MGTOW?” Of course there are.
But I think the vast majority of MGTOW men aren’t necessarily AGAINST women, they just don’t want to put women before THEMSELVES.
In short, MGTOW is about putting yourself first, before you put others first. This is important in many ways, and is not to be confused with being selfish. Being selfish means you don’t care about anyone else, but putting yourself first means you need to prioritize your own life, so you have the power and resources and mental wherewithal to help others in the best way you can.
As I said, I think MGTOW brings up some great points, but unfortunately the movement has been co-opted by bitterness and rage. This is often known as “red pill rage” in the community.
Overall, MGTOW is a fascinating movement which deserves more exploration and discussion, but I think that in general it serves as a safe-haven for very angry and bitter men, who went through a particularly bad divorce or relationship, and want an excuse to vent their anger.
The Black Pill: Giving Into Defeat
Often times, many men who claim that they are MGTOW also claim to follow the black pill philosophy. This is the philosophy that the world is going to collapse, particularly Western Civilization, and that there is nothing we can do to stop it.
Here is a brief explanation of the black pill, taken from Masculine Development:
Now of course, it’s always difficult to summarize a whole theory or school of thought, that’s comprised of numerous beliefs and individuals.
…but, I will try my best. As far as I can tell, the “black pill” is sort of like the red pill, but with a very nihilistic tint.
Where the “red pill” describes how reality is, and urges you on to make changes in your life, the “black pill” says that there are some people who are just completely doomed to lose.
The “red pill” says that you can do things to improve your dating life, but the “black pill” says that for some men, your fate is eternal failure.
Here are some commonly discussed pill topics, that many will find uncomfortable:
-Racial preferences in dating
-Looks preferences in dating
-Incels (and how some men are doomed)
-Society will burn, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it
Can you see why many have a base impulse to reject the black pill? It accepts many of the core tenets of the red pill, but the major difference is that “red pillers” believe you can change things, and there is fundamentally a path out of all this shit.
Black pillers, though? They’d prefer to throw their hands up and watch the whole damn thing burn to the ground.
Overall, I believe that the black pill ideology is very toxic. While they do bring up some good points, such as how many of us are genetically gifted, while others are not, simply giving into nihilism and cynicism is not a good way to live your life.
Many users who claim to adhere to the black pill have ended up committing suicide, due to the severe depression they experience, and the lack of hope that they see as well. Unfortunately, this is not something that can be fixed (as the past is fixed) but it can be improved in the future.
The biggest thing is to live your own life in the best way you see fit. We do not have control over such large events as the collapse of Western Civilization, or geopolitical politics (for now at least). What we do have control over, is our own lives.
Summary & Conclusion
Overall, these ideologies are growing in many ways, but in many ways they are losing power. As more and more men wake up to these ideologies being toxic, we will see a society wide change in how we think and act.
My problem with MGTOW and the black pill isn’t necessarily that they’re “wrong” per say, but they take true premises and then take them to such a ridiculous conclusion that anyone with a bit of common sense could see that they are wrong.
Yes, divorce courts are stacked against men. Yes, many times the world looks grim… but this is no way to live your life, with perpetual anger and cynicism. The best way to live your life is by taking accountability for who you are, and doing the best you can, with what you’ve got.